You've probably already given away money in a negotiation without noticing it: you answered the recruiter's comp question on the first call, or you took the offer as written because countering felt greedy.
This article has a script for each stage of a negotiation, from the recruiter screen to the final paperwork, plus the delivery techniques that make them land. Read it before your next offer and practice the lines out loud, because they need to sound like you by the time the recruiter calls.
The scripts below run in order, from recruiter screen to signed paperwork. They come from Jacob Warwick, an executive negotiator who has closed more than a billion dollars in comp for his clients, and Chris Voss, who spent 24 years negotiating hostages for the FBI. Every script plays at the exact moment it gets explained.
Why asking does not backfire
Start with the fear itself, because it is the actual obstacle. Phyl Terry runs job search councils and has tracked negotiation outcomes across many years:
The 87% statistic. The player below is queued to 1:00:20, the exact moment. Watch on YouTube.
"87% of the time, when you ask for more money, you get. Now that's a longitudinal statistic, meaning over many years."
Companies expect the ask. The offer has room built into it. What follows is how to use that room without damaging the relationship you are about to start.
Stage 1: The recruiter asks for your number
Jacob Warwick's rule is to never anchor first, because the role is still being scoped and an early number becomes your ceiling:
Deflecting the comp question. The player below is queued to 33:44, the exact moment he gives the script. His other scripts below are each embedded at their own moment in the same video. Watch on YouTube.
"Typically, I'd recommend you answer: I don't talk about compensation until we're ready to make an offer. It sounds like we're pretty far away there. Is that going to be a problem?"
His reasoning (27:55): you should never be so sure of what you are worth that you would not accept more. Interviews expand the role as the company gets to know you. Give a number on day one and it gets anchored to the smallest version of the role.
Stage 2: The offer lands
This is the hero script, and it is one sentence:
The hero script. The player below is queued to 5:48, the exact moment Jacob Warwick says it. Watch on YouTube.
"You get the offer, you say: what's the chance there's a little bit more? Almost always see a 20% improvement on that."
Warwick says this works from $100K offers to seven-figure packages, and that well-run negotiations average around 40 percent total movement. The sentence carries no number and no demand, so there is nothing in it to sound greedy about.
Stage 3: Countering without naming a number
If the offer is genuinely light, Warwick's counter is a statement followed by silence:
The counter without a number. The player below is queued to 25:13, the exact moment Jacob Warwick says it. Watch on YouTube.
"I've got to be honest with you, where this offer stands right now, I don't feel comfortable moving forward. It's a little lighter than I expected. I may start saying something like that. And then just wait and see what they have to say."
The silence is the technique. They respond by revealing the range, and now they are negotiating against themselves. If you are forced to name a number anyway, Warwick cites the data on anchoring (1:38:31): people who anchored aggressively high ended up 175 percent better off than people who tried to be reasonable, because recruiters instinctively split the difference with whatever you say.
Stage 4: Breaking out of the band entirely
The biggest moves in Warwick's client history came from getting the role re-leveled rather than haggling within the band:
Re-level the role. The player below is queued to 26:08, the exact moment Jacob Warwick says it. Watch on YouTube.
"Oftentimes I'll say, you know, as we had this conversation, I'm likely a little more horsepower than you anticipated. What's the chance we can come in and restructure the comp for the type of talent we're bringing in here?"
He describes clients who entered processes scoped at $185K to $285K and closed at $1.1M, not by pushing the band but by resetting which band the conversation was in.
Worth knowing from the employer's side: salary bands come out of formulas someone chose. Matt Mochary's curriculum, used by CEOs at OpenAI and Coinbase, shows founders an explicit formula for offers: market comp minus your cash salary, multiplied over four years, divided by an optimism factor, paid as equity. It also advises setting cash at "what you need to live comfortably," which means volunteering a low cash need lowers your cash offer. And when a company offers you a menu of cash/equity trade-offs, the menu itself is part of the negotiation; some CEOs are hoping you take the equity-heavy option. For the equity mechanics behind all this, The Skip's episode with Goodwin Procter's compensation lawyers is a solid deep dive, and Nikhyl Singhal's insider's guide to tech compensation covers how bands and levels really work inside big companies.
The Skip: the insider's guide to tech compensation. How bands and levels really work inside big companies. Watch on YouTube.
The Skip: equity and executive compensation. Goodwin Procter's lawyers on the equity mechanics behind offers. Watch on YouTube.
Say the number without flinching
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Delivery: the Voss mechanics
Chris Voss spent 24 years negotiating for the FBI, and his techniques cover how the scripts above should sound. Three that map directly to salary conversations:
Label, don't interrogate
Label, don't interrogate. The player below is queued to 25:54, the exact moment. Watch on YouTube.
"Questioning somebody makes them feel cornered, which then diminishes trust, because nobody trusts you if you corner them or interrogate them."
Instead of "what's the budget for this role?", try "it seems like there's a range you're working within." Labels pull out the same information without the cornering.
Go for no
Voss phrases asks so the other side can safely decline (29:45): going for yes creates friction, going for no creates safety. Warwick's deflection script ends with exactly this shape: "Is that going to be a problem?" invites a no that moves you forward.
Make them feel heard first
Make them feel heard. The player below is queued to 31:57, the exact moment Chris Voss says it. Watch on YouTube.
"If I can make you feel completely heard on your position, my guess is more than 30% of the deals we made in my favor on the spot. And about half of the deals are made on the spot once the other side feels completely heard."
Before you counter, restate their constraints back to them better than they said them. It costs nothing and it is the opposite of sounding greedy.
The collaborative close: negotiate the job, then the money
Phyl Terry's sequence prevents the entire conversation from feeling adversarial. Before talking money, negotiate what you need to succeed:
Negotiate the job before the money. The player below is queued to 54:15, the exact moment Phyl Terry says it. Watch on YouTube.
"I want you to say: this is great, I want to talk about money, but before we do I want to think about some of the things that will set me up to succeed in this role."
Budget, headcount, training, scope: tie the asks to the job mission you and the hiring manager already agreed on. He tells the story of a CPO who asked for $20M for tech debt in the negotiation, got it on day one, and got promoted within a year partly because she started with the resources to win. Then, for the money itself, his phrasing is deliberately plain (1:01:01): "Are you open to 450? That was really what I was hoping for. Is that something we can talk about?" Most of the time, they say yes.
Stage 5: Protect the close
Deals lose money at the paperwork stage. Warwick tells the story of a CRO whose written severance came back at half the discussed number. The recovery script was four words:
Was that a mistake? The player below is queued to 1:14:01, the exact moment Jacob Warwick says it. Watch on YouTube.
"I said instead, simply ask: was that a mistake? We had discussed on-target earnings, that was intentional. Was that a mistake? And he said, oh yeah, must have been."
That one question recovered $90K on the spot and eventually $350K. Read every document against what was said, and when they differ, assume a mistake before assuming bad faith: "was that a mistake?" lets everyone fix it without a fight.
The scripts on one page
Copy these
- Recruiter screen: "I don't talk about compensation until we're ready to make an offer. Is that going to be a problem?"
- Offer arrives: "What's the chance there's a little bit more?"
- Light offer: "I have to be honest, where this offer stands I don't feel comfortable moving forward. It's a little lighter than I expected." Then silence.
- Re-level the role: "I'm likely a little more horsepower than you anticipated. What's the chance we can restructure the comp for the type of talent we're bringing in?"
- Before the money: "I want to talk about money, but first I want to talk about what will set me up to succeed in this role."
- The ask: "Are you open to 450? That's what I was hoping for. Is that something we can talk about?"
- Paperwork discrepancy: "Was that a mistake?"
Sources
- Lenny's Podcast: The tactical playbook for getting 20-40% more comp, with Jacob Warwick (Mar 2026)
- Lenny's Podcast: Land your dream job in today's market, with Phyl Terry (Sep 2024)
- My First Million: 5 Lessons in Negotiation from an FBI Hostage Negotiator, with Chris Voss (Sep 2025)
- The Skip Podcast: The Insider's Guide to Tech Compensation, Negotiation, and Career Growth (Jan 2025)
- The Skip Podcast: Explaining Equity and Executive Compensation, with Goodwin Procter (Feb 2023)
- The Mochary Method curriculum: compensation formulas and the anti-sell